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Should I believe in Valentine’s Day?

As the world celebrates Valentine’s Day this month, some Christians ask if they should believe in Valentine’s Day given its pagan roots. This is my personal answer to that.


Hello February, the month of love as they say. To be honest, I’m such a sucker for love so this really gets me excited and giddy. Since I feel this way, mostly in this month that has been designated to be the month of love, cupid and roses, does that mean I believe in Valentine’s Day? More importantly, should I, as a Christian believe in Valentine’s Day?

There is no doubt, as research has proved it, that Valentine’s Day has pagan roots, the same with Christmas, Easter and other celebrations. I personally have taken time to understand this topic and I took a personal decision not to BELIEVE in these kinds of celebrations. For instance, I do not celebrate Christmas and Easter as a religious act. The fact is Jesus was not born in December, I’m not a fan of Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny and the Easter eggs (mainly because I don’t like chocolate), but that will not stop me from celebrating with my family and friends. I mean why wouldn't I? It’s a free holiday, family and friends usually find time during that time to be together and meet up after a whole year of working. There are many opportunities to give and be generous through out the year but not like Christmas time. Usually there is an extra cheque and a year’s savings so why not extend your hand to bless your family with gifts and the less privileged. It’s not everyday that you ponder on the miraculous birth of our Lord Jesus, and the gift given to us so why not take advantage of the atmosphere and do something that you don’t always get the opportunity to do on any normal day. That is how I feel.

And that is also how I feel about Valentine’s Day. I do not acknowledge cupid definitely. Again, a personal choice and I do not hold it against anyone who believes. It is also public knowledge that these celebrations have been hyped up for commercial purposes, so not getting a gift for Val’s is not going to set me off. In that same spirit I will not bend over backwards to get someone a gift. Fortunately for me, we have been on the same page with my husband when it comes to gifting, HOWEVER, I do celebrate love because, why not?

I know some people will say you should celebrate love every day and that is true but not 100 percent practical with our busy schedules and all, so why not celebrate love on this day that has the whole world in this lovey dovey mood. To add on to that, if love is to be celebrated every day, then the 14th of February is one of those days, isn’t it? On this day that love is magnified and my subconscious is very much aware of the beauty of it, I choose to celebrate the love I have with my beloved. I love giving love whenever an opportunity presents itself and this day is definitely an opportunity I do not wish to miss. I do not give it in the conventional valentine’s day way of chocolates, flowers (which I’m not a fan of at all) or teddy bears, but for me, it is acknowledging the presence of this special person in my life. I like taking more time to make them smile and laugh than I would have on any ordinary day. I love being intentional about making something special, giving something precious not because it’s Valentine’s Day, but because I love him and the opportunity to express that has been given to me.

I feel that sometimes we pay more attention than we should to things that do not necessarily edify us or make us better spiritually. Like Paul said, we concern ourselves with matters of food and holidays, should I be eating this or should I be doing this and yet fail to look at things that can truly transform the spiritual man. Not celebrating Valentine’s Day will not make you any holier than the person who does, as long as it is all done in the love that is prescribed in the Bible. Celebrating love only on Valentine’s Day will not make you more romantic either, because it is only one day, in a whole year of 365 days. Love needs to be cultivated, nurtured, cherished and celebrated every single day. It might not be as extravagant as on Valentine’s Day, but it should not be ignored and reserved only for the 14th of Feb.

ROMANS 14 v 1-9




I exalt you higher than every thought, every god and all desires. You are worth it Yahweh


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  • 3 months, 3 weeks

    Tsungai Axe

    oh yes,i love the angle here! Not celebrating does not make me any holier, but taking advantage of it and showing love to others is better

  • 3 months, 3 weeks

    Musanjufu Musanjufu Kavubu

    The thing is that the owner of these days still do rituals and they are not just pagan but also very Satanic

  • 3 months, 3 weeks

    Mascha Chidhumo Mupisiri

    I love it. It's very true why not celebrate when we can.

  • 3 months, 3 weeks


    well explained ma'am

  • 3 months, 3 weeks

    Shumie Mafumhe

    Interesting angle that I have never really thought about. Thank you for this.

  • 3 months, 2 weeks

    Tarisai kumbuyani

    Well said. This is deep. Thank you for this.


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